I keep coming back to a Huffington Post article I read recently, that contained 60 pieces of advice that women in their 60's would give to women in their 30's. I noticed it was actually a road map to grace and self-love. It just wasn't organized that way. So here's what I got from this list:
The overarching theme is to be yourself. To truly honor what IS you, and separate it from what isn't you (EX: your appearance, the date on your birth certificate). These kernels of wisdom speak directly to being who you are in this moment and not worrying about what others think:
When I realized that "be yourself" was really the message, I wondered how we were supposed to do that. I mean, it sounds great, but we've spent much of our lives being conditioned to take care of others, so how EXACTLY am I supposed to live my life in the present moment AS ME? Turns out, the answers were right there mixed in with "be yourself". It was a big list, but comes down to this:
And then I'll be totally honest with you... I've avoided this post for a good month or more because I hate lists of "easy ways to be happy" that sound all jolly... like "release your anger", "notice the magic"... because it just ISN'T that easy. If it were we'd all be dancing around throwing confetti.
But, these things, while they seem overly simplified (They are! They leave out so much!) are actually still true. They are the one sentence bottom line to:
What I'm saying is... that the list sounds simple, and I know it's not. What I'm asking you to do is to DIVE IN! When you feel that resistance to the simplified statement... ask yourself what is there for you do, what action needs to be taken, what needs to be acknowledged, in order for you to let that statement be simple? Since anger is one of mine, I'll be posting more on that soon.
"If you are nervous, imagine yourself as a lake...
The top layer is where you think you can't do it. Being scared rises to the top.
The layer under that is where you think: What if...? What if someone laughs? What if they aren't interested in what I have to say?
But if you take a deep breath, and go down... you will find the place where you know you can do it. Breathing will help turn the lake over so that you can do your best and people will be kind and interested in you."
Thanks sweet 9-year-old intuitive goddess-in-training. I will forever carry that vision of being a lake when I feel like I need to connect with my confidence. It will remind me to breathe. Namaste.
Tomorrow I will be speaking on a telesummit about the transitions women go through in life associated with their hormones (puberty, motherhood, menopause), so I've been going over the material I want to cover. But do you ever try to categorize things and just find that life doesn't want to slip into the boxes you built?
Today I can see how holding a space for wholeness, connectedness and complexity can support my efforts. I will commit myself to taking a walk in nature, noticing all of the elements, and finding a sense of completeness. To facilitate my noticing, I'll commit myself to taking five pictures today... one that represents each element... and allowing them to fill my day and my heart.
So, what do you need today? Do you need a particular elemental energy? Or, like me, do you need balancing? What can you commit to notice about how life can offer you exactly what you need? How can you make sure you'll see it when it comes by? Can you take pictures, or take a walk and gather all of what you need in your mind? Is it in meditation or an awareness practice that you find your core, your own wholeness? Even for just one moment... can you locate your breath... and feel present right here, right now? Can you set down your to-do list for five minutes to breathe and relax into this moment and appreciate each sound, each movement around you, the temperature, and the pockets of stillness?
And then notice... how do you feel? Our bodies give us so much information each and every moment, but often we've trained ourselves to keep focussed on the to-do list. What would happen if we trained ourselves to focus on our bodies for a time each day? What would we know then? What would happen if you organized your days to make time for your bodies to feel good, to relax, to speak its truth?
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